Well, now our family is four. It has been a bit of an adjustment, but overall I'm happy to say that we are doing pretty well. So I decided it is time to write down my birth story before I forget everything. I really should do this in two parts but I'm just going to make it one really long blog. My apologies in advance for that. Also, I am telling the story of giving birth... this may seem obvious but I will be talking about bodily fluids and other kinda icky stuff--nothing too graphic but still... I'm also including a modest nursing photo. Consider yourself warned. Also, I'm not a grammar wiz and a little sleep deprived so please overlook my run-on sentences etc.

When I was nearly to the 36 week mark of pregnancy I had a freak out moment and decided it was time to really start preparing for labor. I didn't want to have the same exhausting pushing and lengthy recovery as I did the first time around. I also wanted it to just be easier than the first time. My Mom/Douala who had delivered both myself and my little brother at home with no drugs, insisted that I practice relaxation breathing every day to prepare. I told her that I thought that was just a little hokey. When I said this, Elijah thought I said "cookie" and well, he just had to have one. But, hokeyness aside, I decided to take her advise and began listening to guided relaxation meditation. I bought the book HypnoBabies which teaches relaxation, visualization, and breathing techniques that help you "not have pain during labor". And I began to practice breathing and relaxation. I feel like all my free time leading up to this delivery was spent either physically exercising to relieve my hip and back pain, or mentally exercising to prepare for labor... not fun, but I just had to hope it would be worth it.
Skip ahead to March 28th. I had been waiting all week (or three weeks, but who's counting) for my little one to make his appearance. I'm not going to lie, I took some castor oil that Friday morning in hopes that baby would come. I want to point out though that my doctor had already offered to strip my membranes and I was 3 cm dilated and my cervix was extremely ripe. My body was ready to have a baby and I was just trying to help it along a little. That ended up being and epic fail on the induction front. It had no effect on me whatsoever except to work as it is intended: as a laxative (which isn't such a bad thing in late pregnancy). No contractions. Not even a mild cramp. Just some poop. It was a bit of a letdown since my Mom used it for getting things going with some of her pregnancies and it worked for her every time.
But that Friday night I did began having mild contractions that were 6 min apart. They weren't very typical contractions but I still called Jeff home from work a little early, had Josiah (my brother) come over to sit for Elijah and we went in to the hospital around 1 am on my due date. I knew it wasn't quite time yet though and they sent me home to sleep. So we grabbed some burgers at Steak and Shake then headed to bed around 2:30. Saturday morning at 5:30 I rolled over in bed and my water broke. Drats! I was hoping we would have gotten more sleep before going into battle but, at that point, my contractions came on much stronger and frequently and it really was time to head to the hospital. Fortunately, Josiah had decided to stay and sleep on our couch so that we could leave immediately.
We arrived, somewhat bleary-eyed, at the birthing center (which is part of the hospital) around 6 that morning. I was still just 3 cm dilated and I don't remember how effaced, but it was pretty much there. We got into our room and I was given an IV lock to receive antibiotics every 4 hrs of labor because I tested positive for strep B at some point during my pregnancy. Then my Mom arrived, and I rode waves of contractions that were once again in my back. But other than back labor, this time was so different from my first time! Instead of pacing the floor, worrying about keeping things going, I stayed mostly on the bed just saving my energy and focusing all of it into my contractions. Each contraction came and I breathed through it and rested on my pillows in between. They were really close together and sometimes right on top of each other, they never seemed to reach a nice consistent rate or intensity. At some point I felt really tired and laid down on my left side to rest. My nurse offered me a heating pad and oh, my word, was that thing lovely. I was able to rest with my eyes closed and really get my mind into the focused and relaxed zone I had practiced for weeks. Jeff was so wonderful and never left my side. (I don't really remember what he did, but I do know whatever it was it was nice).
After an hour (7 am), I moved to leaning on a birthing ball to help baby get in just the right position and try to relieve the pain in my back. I'm pretty sure this was the point that I lost the burger I had eaten a few hours earlier. Good thing Jeff was there with a pan to catch it because I really didn't care where it landed. I really began to focus down each of my breaths now as I went through every contraction. Each wave came and I rocked back on the ball and reminded myself to
breathe breathe breathe as my Mom encouraged me on and Jeff applied counter pressure to my hips, rubbed my back, and reminded me to relax. Soon the contractions were so powerful and painful that I told them I needed to get into the tub. The nurse went to fill it and when she came back to check me I was 10 cm! Time to push! It was about 8:45 when we headed to the tub and Jeff laughingly remarked that we would have a baby 10 minutes from then. (Little did we know.)
Once I was in the tub I leaned on my knees with my arms braced against the side of the tub. The water was so soothing and that was the only thought I had time for before I felt a great urge to push. Well, I did have one other panicked thought just after that urge, it was "Oh dear God, I don't want to do this!" and then my mental reply: "Suck it up Christina. It's too late now. You have to." And so, with Jeff behind me applying counter pressure to my hips I began to really work. No screaming this time, just concentrated breathing and pushing. Please note, I say no screaming, not no pain. I don't remember the exact number of pushes but I do know it couldn't have been more than 4 or 5.

And then, one minute before 9 am, my son was born 8 lbs 9oz and 21 inches. I turned around, the doctor handed me my baby and I held him as we waited for him to begin breathing. They placed a blanket over him to help keep him warm and I just sat there with him looking up at me and feeling the umbilical cord still tying us together. Blood began to pool around me and the doctor said it was time for me to deliver the placenta soon and I had better get on dry land. At this point everyone had grabbed some towels and the doctor asked Jeff if he wanted to cut the cord... Jeff says that is what we pay doctors for. So I asked if I could cut it. And that was kinda cool. It's silly, but it felt like the final step where I had truly birthed my baby and was releasing him to begin his life.
They took me to the bed to deliver the placenta, allowing our little one to nurse and help things along, and with the help of the doctor it came out fairly easily. The doctor then began stitching up a 3cm perineal tear I had that looked to be the same spot as the one I had with Eli.
Everything was great. I was finished! And it only took me like 3 hours to have the baby! If only I hadn't nearly fainted when they helped me up to pee. When they put me back on the bed I lost my hearing and everything seemed to be very far away... In case you are wondering, that isn't normal or healthy. They laid me down and began to really push on my uterus to get all the blood clots out. And they kept pushing. And they kept getting out VERY large clots. And I kept bleeding. And they pushed more, it hurt. A. Lot.
The timing for the rest is a bit of a blur because I ended up losing over half my blood that day. They wanted to encourage my body to have contractions so that my uterus would close up so they used the IV already in my arm to give me pictocin. That didn't slow my bleeding, so they stuck I don't know what kind of contraction inducing pills up my butt. Ten of them. That didn't slow the bleeding and clotting either, so they threw one last hail Mary and gave me a shot of yet another something. I had chosen to endure the pain of natural childbirth because I hate needles that much. So yeah, getting poked and filled with drugs kinda sucked. What had started as a beautiful empowering day had become a nightmare. All those drugs they had given me caused me to shiver uncontrollably and caused painful cramping.
Eventually, when they saw that the bleeding wasn't letting up and my blood pressure was getting scary low, my doctor said they were going to take me into surgery and perform a D&C to get out the excess blood, grab any leftover placenta and see what was going on. He said he would try inserting a balloon into my uterus to compress the bleeding but if it didn't work they would have to remove the uterus all together. They took me into surgery (thank God the maternity ER was just down the hall from the birthing center) and I got a very nice anesthesia induced nap.
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| Nursing my sweet little one |
Afterwards my doctor said I had a cervical tear that was 3 inches long that he stitched up. They put me in the ICU, put in a catheter to drain urine and blood from the balloon which now resided in my uterus, took my blood, put a IV in my other arm, put these horrible compression things on my legs to prevent blood clots, hooked me up to blood pressure and heart monitors (on my finger, and nodes around my chest), and gave me 2 blood transfusions. Let me tell you, nursing a newborn with all that nonsense is not easy. (But praise God they let me keep nursing! I remember asking when the last time I had nursed was just before I went into surgery thinking "Oh, ok. Plenty of time before he needs to nurse again. We can do this." Little did I realize my life could have been at stake, I was just thinking about taking care of my the baby.)
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| Hanging out during my many transfusions |
It was difficult sleeping in the ICU with beepers going off all the time and those things constantly pressing on my legs. Oh, and the whole taking care of a newborn thing...The next morning they took my blood and my hemoglobin levels were at 5.5. I guess that is bad (they said I started with them around 12 which means I lost a little over half the blood in my body, and that number was taken after receiving 2 transfusions the day before). So I spent that day getting 4 more transfusions and some plasma. By the end of the day my levels were up to 9.6 and I felt much better and I was pretty much in the clear. They also took the balloon out which relieved a lot of pressure and made me much more comfortable. Jeff said that the balloon had "Happy Birthday Ezra" written on it. But it didn't.
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| Ezra under the grow lights |
Unfortunately, that night they had to put Ezra under lights because he was a little jaundiced. The poor boy had to be under them for 24 hours to get everything to the right levels and he was only allowed out for eating. We decided to send Ezra to the nursery so that we could sleep, and to avoid the temptation to pull him out from the lights. The next morning they took off all the other stuff and let me get out of bed for the first time in 2 days. They took my blood again and found my hemoglobin was up to 10.2. My Doctor says my recovery is pretty miraculous. Which I would have to agree with (there were a LOT of people praying for me). Then they sent us down to regular maternity recovery where we had to wait till the evening to see if Ezra could be taken out from the lights. We were able to have Eli come visit that day which made me happy. But we had to spend yet another night in the hospital waiting on the all clear from doctors.
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| Our family together for the first time |
They finally let us go home Tuesday late afternoon and it was like being released from prison. It was such a pretty day that we had a picnic dinner at our park before heading home.
The next day my parents brought Elijah home after his nap time and we were finally able to get the chance to figure out being a family of four. I did put together a little gift basket from Ezra to Eli. I included a coloring book, Tow-mater truck (from one Eli's favorite movies) and a ball. I also included his glow-worm which looks like a baby so that he could have a baby to take care of also. Eli loves the truck.
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| Holding his baby like Grandma |
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| Brothers |
It has been a couple weeks now and I am feeling so much better! Ezra is a pretty good sleeper, so we are getting some three hour stretches of sleep which has made a real difference for me. Eli absolutely adores his little brother. He is a toddler though and the adjustment has had dramatic moments in other areas of life. We have had a ton of boundary testing and Eli has begun waking up crying every night. So prayers for him would be very appreciated.
So, it wasn't painless like the book claimed it would be, but I was able to manage my pain during labor and I was actually able to use the relaxation techniques to calm myself when being poked and prodded with a million needles and dealing with unnatural drug induced contractions. All in all we are starting to get to a sense of normal now. I have to say that even though the aftermath was a nightmare, Ezra's birth was exactly what I wanted it to be. It was so perfect and magical and I am so thankful to have had that experience. I'm also very grateful for my doctor and nurses who made it possible for me to tell the birth story of my third child (If we have one). And I'm especially grateful to my Lord who watched over me through it all.
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| Three weeks later and feeling good enough to take a 2 hour hike. Hallelujah! |